I'm looking for a pregnancy buddy who won't judge me or quote elusive advice as in "they say...". I don't know who "they" are, and I don't care to, so "their" opinions are virtually meaningless to me. I trust the advice of my sisters, cousins and like-minded friends and the fabulous Dr. Z Gyno Extraordinaire, who have all gone before me in pregnancy. The only pleasure I get from hearing folks espouse about the quasi facts sourced from "experts" pulled from the ether is I get to make fun of you the next time I see my hubby. He hears it all, I'm not sure how much of it he actually listens to, and I don't care.  That is the special sauce that keeps are marriage so great.

It would have been masterful planning on our part if we had gotten pregnant last year when a handful of my like-minded girlfriends were also expecting. But...we were recently married, and undergoing some big life lessons like, having both 1% and non fat milk in the fridge, learning what does and doesn't go in the dryer, and the biggest for me was learning to walk lightly. I apparently am a heavy walker and nearly drove my new husband to double down on wall to wall carpet. So, as you can imagine, we had a road to travel before we thought it wise to add a baby to the mix. I watched my friends progress through pregnancies together and was a bit jealous. I secretly hoped one of my early married friends would come out of pregnancy retirement for a surprise third or fourth kid...to no avail.

Pregnancy is totally new to me, so the strange aches and pains in even more strange places had me a bit worried, I don't know what to compare this to, and all of my go to buddies are in the next phase of mommy-dom. What I need is a pregnancy buddy. Someone who is also striving to stay physically active and social as opposed to some gals who burrow themselves on a couch for nine (I stand corrected, its really 10) months.

So, if you're out there...you go getter, you who's playing soccer in her 4th month, willing to dig a 30 ft. long 3 ft deep trench in the yard to help prod the husband to set out the new fence posts, and enjoys an occasional cold one please give me a sign. I can't be the only pregnant lady who wants to maintain her life through all of this. I know you are out there, meet me back here for a cocktail hour....just don't tell "them", you know what "they say" about rebels like us.